My name is Nikolai. I live in Tallinn, Estonia.
My son Stanislav is 6 years old, and I dream of taking him to the warm sea. I really hope for your help: I can't do it alone.
It so happened that due to illness, since childhood, I have been in a wheelchair and cannot walk. My wife divorced me when my son was 2 years old. But we continued to communicate. She left, then came back and I always accepted her. But now she has gone to another country, signed all the papers for my son, and I don’t know if we will see her again or not.
I have no grudge against my ex-wife, as she gave me the biggest gift, which many with my diagnosis do not even dare to dream of. She gave me a son.
Stanislav is a very smart and kind boy. The next year he will go to school, but it seems to me that he already understands everything now, better than many adults!
The first time he offered me his help was when he was only 3 years old. On the stairs, I usually crawl lying down and drag a wheelchair behind me. I have strong hands and am used to handling things on my own. But the son said three years ago: "Come on together!" and we've been doing that ever since. No one taught him compassion, no one explained it, and I myself did not think that a three-year-old child was capable of such an act ...
My son and I live together in a small apartment in a social home, where in one room there is a kitchen, a bedroom, and our whole life. I cook, wash and clean myself. I may not be the best housewife, but I try. I buy healthy products, although my son only orders me his favorite pasta.
This year, Stanislav unexpectedly asked me to show you how to wash the dishes, and he took it upon himself! Now we can say that we solve everyday issues together.
In many other ways, Stanislav is an ordinary child. For a year, I gave him a little bear cub, and my son still falls asleep only with him. She loves to collect puzzles and constructor. I bought him a new LEGO set for New Years. My son loves cartoons about Peppa Pig and Barbapapa. It reminds me of how, as a child, I watched with pleasure “Well, wait a minute!” and all series about Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.
For several months I could not arrange a child in kindergarten, and we were together around the clock every day. Now my son is in a group with other children during the day, and I went to driving courses and improve my skills as a welder. I have a dream to open my own business. I can do a lot with my hands. I have a degree in carpentry and completed computer courses. Extensive experience in serving people at the checkout in a large supermarket. Responsibility for the future of my son helps me a lot to move forward. Stanislav has his own ambitions, even more daring. He says that he will grow up and earn money for the coolest Lamborghini.
My family had problems with alcohol, so I categorically refuse not just to drink, but even to communicate with those who have such a problem. It is important for me to raise my son myself, since I myself grew up in a boarding school for children who have serious health problems. I know what it is like for a child to live without a family. Now my mother is dead. I remember her with great love and still remember the taste of her borscht! Probably no one will ever be able to cook this!
Our son has no other relatives who could help him. After the boarding school, I always lived alone, coped on my own: I rented an apartment, worked and took care of everyday life. My ex-wife's mother suffers from alcoholism, her stepmother gave her to an orphanage, her father and brother committed suicide. When there was no caring family in childhood, it is very difficult to be the most caring mother and wife.
I have already resigned myself to my fate, but I feel sorry for my son. I see that he misses his mother. I would like to please him, arrange for him a fabulous journey to where it is warm and my carriage does not get stuck in the snow.
Sincerely, Nikolai Zadorin.
*The donation fee includes:
- Air tickets: Tallin-Larnaca, Larnaca-Tallin
- Airport transfers
- Hotel accommodation
- Programme for 10 days
- Petrol expenses
- Meals
- Excursions
- Entertainment
